Resources

Self-Compassion Practices

Dr. Kristin Neff, Dr. Tara Brach and Jack Kornfield have developed a number of resources to help you explore the idea of self-compassion / lovingkindness, and their websites include exercises and downloadable MP3s with guided practices.

Guided Mindfulness Practices

The UCLA Mindful Awareness Research Center offers a number of downloadable MP3s that can help you redirect your attention and calm your mind.

Relationship

The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/

Taming the Cycle: Finding and changing the patterns that keep you stuck in your relationship: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qt4VhRHsjm8&t=1s

Making marriage work:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AKTyPgwfPgg

Turn to your partner:    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ib7Ain2aVR0

 Blueprint of Gottman’s style:   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o1v6j_4_NtQ

Trauma

Polyvagal Theory: https://www.rhythmofregulation.com/resources/Beginner’s%20Guide.pdf

The Change Triangle: https://www.hilaryjacobshendel.com/what-is-the-change-triangle-c18dd

Understanding the Window of Tolerance and How it Affects You: https://www.mindmypeelings.com/blog/window-of-tolerance