Self-Compassion Practices

Dr. Kristin Neff, Dr. Tara Brach and Jack Kornfield have developed a number of resources to help you explore the idea of self-compassion / lovingkindness, and their websites include exercises and downloadable MP3s with guided practices.

Guided Mindfulness Practices

The UCLA Mindful Awareness Research Center offers a number of downloadable MP3s that can help you redirect your attention and calm your mind.


The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling:

Taming the Cycle: Finding and changing the patterns that keep you stuck in your relationship:

Making marriage work:

Turn to your partner:

 Blueprint of Gottman’s style:


Polyvagal Theory:’s%20Guide.pdf

The Change Triangle:

Understanding the Window of Tolerance and How it Affects You: