Self-Compassion Practices

Dr. Kristin Neff, Dr. Tara Brach and Jack Kornfield have developed a number of resources to help you explore the idea of self-compassion / lovingkindness, and their websites include exercises and downloadable MP3s with guided practices.

Guided Mindfulness Practices

The UCLA Mindful Awareness Research Center offers a number of downloadable MP3s that can help you redirect your attention and calm your mind.


The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling:

Taming the Cycle: Finding and changing the patterns that keep you stuck in your relationship:

Making marriage work:

Turn to your partner:

Blueprint of Gottman’s style:

The Change triangle

By following the map of the changing triangle in every step of life, you are better able to track your inner experience. Since staying in our core emotional state ensures more vitality and contact with life, it’s helpful to know when we are drifting away from the core state.

Anxiety and Panic Attacks

If you are in crisis, please call the following numbers:

At the other end of the line is a listening ear ready to help.