Counselling for Anger Management

What is Anger?

Anger is an emotion. It is often seen as a negative emotion, but it can be a “good” thing if it motivates you to take action or defend yourself. It can also be a “bad” thing if it leads to violence. Anger is a normal emotion that is part of the “fight or flight” reaction. This is when your body releases hormones that prepare you to either fight or run away from danger. 

Everyone experiences anger differently, and there is no “right” or “wrong” way to feel it. Some people express their anger in healthy ways, while others might need help learning how to deal with it in a more constructive way.

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What is The Difference Between Healthy and Unhealthy Anger?

Peter Levine, a somatic psychologist and author of the book Waking the Tiger, defines healthy anger as a “natural response to threat or injustice that allows us to defend ourselves or others.” In contrast, unhealthy anger is “an intense and prolonged emotional state that can damage our physical and mental health, as well as our relationships.” Levine argues that healthy anger is crucial for our survival, providing us with the energy and motivation to protect ourselves and those we love.

However, when anger is chronic or uncontrolled, it can lead to problems such as anxiety, depression, and even heart disease. It’s important to be aware of the difference between healthy and unhealthy anger so that we can deal with our anger in a way that is beneficial, not harmful.

Anger and Unresolved Trauma

When we experience feelings of rage, it’s often because we’re perceiving a threat. Our fight or flight response kicks in, and we become ready to defend ourselves. For some people, this reaction is disproportionate to the situation. They might overreact to minor offenses or become easily triggered by seemingly innocuous events. In many cases, this can be traced back to unresolved trauma. When we’ve experienced a traumatic event, our brain becomes sensitized to threat. We may start to see the world as a dangerous place and react accordingly.,This can lead to a cycle of anger and further trauma, as we view even small disagreements as threatening. 

It can be difficult to break out of this pattern, but it’s important to seek help if you find yourself feeling angry most of the time. Our experienced counsellors and therapists are here to support you. We provide secure online counselling for anger management and psychotherapy throughout Vancouver and BC. 

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How Can Counselling Help?

Counselling for Anger Management and psychotherapy can provide a safe space to explore the underlying causes of anger issues and learn healthy coping mechanisms. Our counsellors use various evidence-based treatments tailored to your individual needs to help you process any past trauma in which your anger management issues may be rooted in.

Book A Complementary Consultation With One Of Our Experienced Counsellors Today. We Look Forward To Hearing From You.

“There is a wisdom in trauma when we realize that our traumatic responses and imprints are not ourselves and that we can work them through and thus become ourselves.”

― Gabor Mate